Lovense - Give to Gain Connection

Often what got in the way was my own mentality, 10 seconds of bravery and I found out the world didn’t come crashing down because I bought a toy and my partners were actually exciting to ‘play’ when I was brave enough to ask… my advice would be to just try it, be brave and communicate what you want and see what happens. If your sexual partner isn’t ok with you discovering what brings you pleasure in this area, don’t question your desire; question the partner's choice! You’re allowed to enjoy yourself!!

—Anonymous

Sensory play has helped a ton when the mind and body aren't connecting, and it's impossible to get there. Lovense toys have amazing extra detail in how they're designed, having sensory issues, this helped get around some other toys' uncomfortable feel. Being able to be more connected without being present has been amazing.

—MissMinded

To fight my low libido, I downloaded Lovense and bought a connected toy… It really helped me because I genuinely enjoy myself sexually. By downloading Lovense, I hoped to discover new things, a new sexuality. And that's exactly what I got… I played and connected with men from all over the world with whom I shared the same fantasies… And it's very exciting to let yourself go with strangers, all in complete safety.

—Sweetysub

I wasn’t sure what I was hoping for. But my partner said we could try new ways of exploring our sexual love for each other, at first I thought I wasn’t good enough on my own, but then he brought 2 toys, one for me and one for him. And I realised how much control I had without even touching, and watching his facial expressions was an even bigger turn on than I realised.

—Beautyginge

Taking the pressure off myself to climax every time. Making room to feel pleasure even if it doesn’t result in climax. Engaging with media, clothing, sensations, and people that make me feel sensuous to establish that headspace.

—Anonymous

Joining the kink community allowed me to find people who are open in their sexuality and create an environment where people can be themselves. This attitude extends to private settings with a trusted and understanding partner who makes sure I feel comfortable and loved.

—Pixel

I’ve often tried a breathing exercise which allowed me to relax and allow the mind and body to flow as one. When I stopped focusing on performing & started to focus on feeling was the most effective method. The best tip I can give anyone who wants to cum, don’t think about it, let it happen.

—younghungbayboy

Discovering audio porn for women where he really shows a love for the female body. I need to be talked through it to be kept in the present in my body instead of in my head.

—Anonymous

I try not to focus on climax as the focus of intimacy, and a genuine connection with my partner is the only way I have been able to consistently climax during intimacy.

—Sky

Reading more about female-centered pleasure & kink in books and online forums. Understanding that pleasure is a continuum, and it doesn't all look the same or is consistent. Exercising more to feel better about myself. More communication with partners about what I need and want.

—Anonymous