She Said the Toy Won... So the Remote War Started

Other than the mental challenges, intimacy was a big one because we used to be very intimate. The app control has been a life changer.

 

I was really hesitant the first time because I’d used toys before, but he was always the one in control in bed. I wasn’t sure how much I would need to control since he wouldn’t be there physically. But oh my god, the amount of options and control he had… I didn’t even touch the toy except to insert it. It felt like he was right beside me again if I closed my eyes. I even teared up a little because I missed him so much mid session. Lovense definitely helped us build that long distance bridge.

 

I honestly think being intimate is our love language, so having that gone from our relationship was really tough at first. Trying Vulse definitely improved our bond even more.

 

The last time we used our toys, we were on FaceTime watching each other, so you can imagine how that ended. I joked that I might start liking my Vulse more than him, and he turned it off. If he were with me, I would’ve kicked his ass. So I turned his off too, and it became an edging contest. I love teasing him with the toy, even though he’s usually the one making me feel good with it.

 

My advice? It’s a must. People don’t realize how much lack of intimacy hurts in long distance relationships. I’m not saying LDRs are doomed without it, not at all, but it really hurts not being able to hug your partner or have sex with them. It makes me miss him even more. With the toy, a bit of that homesickness (him being my home) is mended.